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It may sound cliché and completely unmasculine, but in Asian culture, the men are raised to always offer comfort for the female, making sure that they are provided and cared for. They might steal a kiss or two when no one’s looking, but in retrospect the Asian male would much rather prefer it behind closed doors.Whether it’s their demeanour towards the public eye, or how they choose privacy over strong lustful urges, it’s easy to assume Asian males are more conservative when it comes to showcasing their emotions.“When I fill out forms and have to check a box to identify ethnicity, I always check ‘Asian,’” Richard said.“But honestly, I’ve always considered myself a man, not an ‘Asian man.’ I’ve never thought of myself as any different from the next guy.I suppose that’s because my family has lived in this country for generations, and my parents never emphasized Asian roots or culture.That just wasn’t part of my family life.” Then there’s Tricia: “My Asian heritage was—and is—a big part of my immediate and extended family.There are many myths and stereotypes when it comes to dating asian guys.Some are completely outlandish and some are, well, a little more spot on. Census Bureau, 40% of Asian females will marry a non-Asian male, whereas 20% of Asian males will marry a non-Asian female. In fact, there’s even a website which acts as a forum for asian men reclaiming their “asianalitiy” – and they are pissed that their potential asian wives are shacking up with non-asians.
Richard and Tricia are from the same ethnic group—Asian—but have vastly different approaches to love and dating.It is wise to have your eyes wide open to the implications of facing all of life’s ups and downs with a partner who may not share cultural aspects dear to you. Finding someone within your ethnic group may be a top priority for you—but it certain isn’t the only priority.How will you know who is a perfect fit and who isn’t if you are unclear about the other qualities critical to you?For example, at the dinner table, it is a blasphemy to serve yourself food first and immediately start eating. Unfortunately, we are influenced by what we see in the media whether we are conscious of it or not.You serve the person you are dining with first, and always offer the last bite. Most depictions of Asian males in the popular media are not the same as their Caucasian counterparts.