Tips for dating a shy guy
You’re interested in a shy guy and having a hard time understanding him and coping with his shyness.
Remember shyness is a defense mechanism, it’s not an unnatural thing or a flaw.
Let me tell you, I couldn’t do it, and I don’t know if once you do it, it ever gets easier. He still wants to throw up every time he starts to approach a stranger, and even after the initial contact, he’s still nervous.
Chou believes that the approach is only one part of the puzzle.
You won’t be able to think about each woman as a unique experience–you’ll only be able to focus on what your ratio up to this point is.
This thinking will lessen your emotional investment into each experience.
William Chou, from The Good Men Project, on the other hand, says that after many attempts at this style of picking up women, this reverse-psychology strategy has almost never worked.This might be the most enticing piece of advice for the shy guy.This type of mantra gives you some courage for a couple of seconds–and it also gives you the false sense that all you’re missing is the courage.Yeah, sure, you got the courage to go up to her, but You have to establish a base connection of mutual trust and–I hate to say it–that doesn’t happen with these “cold-calls.”All my girlfriends & I agree, when a guy just walks up to us, there’s not enough time for us to figure out if any “sexual chemistry” is there, because everything is happening so fast. Try to establish a connection before you ask her out, and throw this “cold-calling” advice out the window.Allow me to illustrate this point with a story of my own: One time this guy asked me to let him into the campus library because his card wasn’t working. that night thinking, A couple weeks later, though, we were still in touch.