Style online dating tips
To oversimplify what I mean, let’s take coffee for example. Only use current photos in your profile: One of the most common complaints I hear from men is that women frequently misrepresent themselves in their photos by using old photos (sometimes decades old) or by cropping them in too tightly so you don’t realize they are of a certain body type.
Most people can agree they don’t like scalding hot coffee, but it’s tough to get people to agree on how they do like their coffee. Obviously men do this as well; I’ve just heard this complaint more frequently from men than from women.
Don’t you both deserve to have your profiles read carefully and thoroughly?
After all, if online dating profiles are a part of the whole online dating process, why skip that step? Write a quality first message: We all know competition is fierce in the online dating world, so why waste time writing non-memorable introductory messages?
Respect people’s time by not writing any more than you’d be willing to read yourself.
Moderation is the key here; provide enough information to give people a clear snapshot of who you are, but don’t bore them to death War-and-Peace-style. Place critical information at the top of your profile: If you’re looking for something very specific, such as deal-breakers you absolutely want people to know about, place that information at the very top of your profile.
I used to think this was shallow advice, but it all comes down to honesty.
One of the men I met through an online dating site thanked me for looking exactly like my photos because one woman he went on a date with ended up gaining a significant amount of weight since the photos she posted were taken.
I hear men say all the time that online dating is not fair because the male/female ratio is so skewed.
For those who put some real thought into their profiles, there’s some really valuable information there. Don’t be afraid to make the first move: Do “traditional” dating rules apply in online dating (i.e. Truthfully, I don’t think traditional dating rules should apply in offline dating. A commenter on my “Three Mistakes …” piece said someone kept messaging them the word “hi.” Just “hi.” I don’t think that really “wowed” them.
This is one of the most difficult areas on which to give advice because this is the “coffee” of the online dating world (if you skipped the intro to this piece and went straight to the tips, this reference probably made no sense).
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