Rules on dating coworkers
A Career Builder survey from last February revealed that nearly 36% of employees admitted to having a romantic relationship with a coworker, and one-third of office relationships result in marriage. We're approaching our fourth wedding anniversary.) It's up to you to figure out whether pursuing an office relationship is worth the possible consequences, good and bad.
But they happen all the time, and when they do, there are three possible outcomes: The relationship turns sour and your reputation and career take a beating; it ends, but you're both mature and cordial and don't let the breakup affect your work; or things work out.
"The bottom line is, you need to tread carefully," she adds.
Jennifer actually met her boyfriend of five years at work and that surprised Katie because she ended up having to quit a job after dating someone in her office. We had to attend the same work functions and travel as a team.
"Add to that two lovers fighting over doing dishes in the next cube and you have one unhappy coworker, who you may catch sauntering to HR." Also, it's entirely unprofessional to complain about your personal relationships at work, whether you're dating a colleague or not. So while it may be tempting, stop yourself before you get yourself into trouble. Don't get caught up in long conversations, two-hour lunches, IMing, or emailing with your partner when you should be working on projects or preparing for meetings. "Since the sensitivities of the workforce are varied and subjective, there's always a risk of offending someone.
One complaint to HR for PDA, showing preferential treatment, or using words of endearment in public will at the very least trigger an investigation." 13. "Be careful what you text or email to each other, not just because Steve in accounting might fall off his chair when he mistakenly receives it - but also because it could ultimately be used as evidence in a legal case in termination or sexual harassment," she warns. Don't talk about work at home This one is more for the well-being of your relationship.
There’s too much at stake, like your livelihood to take risks, and there’s too much to lose, like a potentially great love, not to give it a shot. Don’t give someone you’re disabled dating better work or pay, and don’t punish someone you’re breaking up with by giving him or her worse work or pay. If they’re not — then keep personal remarks at work limited to sports, the weather and the kids. “I’m sorry, I’m not comfortable talking about your wife. Your co-worker boyfriend or girlfriend may look like Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie, and you may be so pumped up that you’ve got a hot date with the hottie — but keep your feelings to yourself — and your friends outside of work. While you should not announce your relationship, you can say, “Yes, we’re disabled dating.
Otherwise, you may find yourself on the receiving end of a lawsuit. I want to keep our relationship all business because I value us as co-workers,” is all you need to say and do. Work gossip is inevitable, but you must practice good behavior by keeping the water cooler talk to work and the weather. We’re both single adults and we’re working very hard to keep our social life separate from our work life.” And smile.