Little black book of dating red flags
You have different goals, and therefore you are a mismatch. He is looking forward to a brighter, happier future with a lovely woman! I say, he is not ready for a relationship with you or anyone else, he needs to go through the grieving stage and fully process his loss.
By the way, with this type of a man you won't even need to bother with the hassle of breaking up. He is not dating to form a relationship with you (or anyone else), he is dating to either punish his ex, to forget her, to dull the pain he is in right now or just for the sake of distraction. (See my article: Will he get back together with his ex?
Too often, women suffer anguish when they are forced to recognize that all those warning signs that they ignored have now reached critical mass.
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You have enough problems and troubles to deal with, you do not need more! Dating a not nice man WILL NOT make you happy, so this one will have to go too. Nevertheless, if he acts like he is already ready to take your 10 day 'relationship' to the next level and keeps insisting on 'moving things along' I would drop him like a hot rock.
If he were, you would NOT have to worry about creating excuses of his lame behavior and by the way, your creating justification is already a red flag in itself.This series of videos from Narcissistic Support identifies the red flags of narcissistic behavior so you can avoid getting involved with people who will hurt you. The first sign of narcissistic behavior is love bombing. Saw something wrong with himwhether it was suspect grooming habits or ridiculously childish behaviorbut let it slide. She’s the author of 101 Quizzes for Couples, 101 Quizzes for BFFs, 101 Quizzes for Brides and Grooms, and What’s Your Type?If during a date he is not focused on you it means he does not see you as a prize.Think of those bad angry words coming out of his mouth as of sneaky woof's whiskers sticking out through the sheep's clothes he is wearing right now.