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“The Communicator feels proud of himself when he succeeds in thawing the ice of The Analyst’s distrust, when he conquers his independent partner by the power of his emotions, tames his proud nature, directs and manages him so finely that it raises no qualms for The Analyst (“since you actually want this yourself”)“(X).That’s a kind of feeling statement that I’m not sure I completely understand, although I guess some people would feel happy at achieving closeness with others through their own skills at making others feel at ease?I find that particularly important and interesting because what I look for in others is long-term compatibility.Duals speak to each other’s suggestive functions, making them constantly interesting and pleasing to each other. They tend to divide their life into their strengths and weaknesses, decreasing stress and leaning on their own strengths.Duality: Duality is a big part of Socionics and what people get obsessed with. I read another INTj (probably a very heavily Ti driven one) who was sort of completely aiming for it in his life and I think it’s dangerous to assess people in terms of their personality-type compatibility.Still, the idea is attractive, so very very attractive.The ESFj also closes physical and psychological distance with ease making it easier for the INTj to feel at ease in their presence and open up.The ESFj might be apologising for their partner, unless they agree with them upon which they might be an emotional hurricane in defending the topic at hand.
The striving for novel experiences in the ESFj will eventually tire the INTj who then regulates the behaviour, and vice versa, the ESFj can provide needed novelty for the INTj.
The INTj can also appear uncompromising and difficult when defending their convictions.
But the ESFj works well with all these things (which I personally see as massive character flaws but I can’t seem to help them), working well with everyday matters.
The Communicator is good with emotions but lacks a long-term plan and sight, while the INTj has that but struggles with feelings.
The INTj gets softened when someone else cares about their wellbeing, which the ESFj might do and charm the stubborn INTj.