Dating someone with 3 kids
I did want my guy to know that I understood his role as a parent so I would ask questions about them or their lives.
I loved hearing him get so excited talking about the cute little things they would do.
I honestly found this extremely tough and had to check my jealousy at the door.
There were constant reminders of her, not only in the kids themselves but in memories, photos, and so on.
This helped me to focus on keeping our relationship strong. Overall, I knew that I had to be a person that meant a hell of a lot to my boyfriend.
Since he had two little people that depended on him, he wasn’t going to go bringing just anyone into that dynamic.
I let them decide how they wanted to get to know me and it developed naturally the more we interacted.
I wasn’t a pushover and if I needed to say no, I did, but I left the real parenting to him.
Finding someone special is rare enough, but when you reach a certain age, there’s a good chance that the person you find may be a package deal. We couldn’t make spontaneous plans and things would often get interrupted.
I found myself in this exact scenario: I met an amazing guy that I fell for fast and during one of those “getting to know each other” moments, I learned he had kids. I knew he was worth it so I adapted quickly but I had to remember that I would never be number one. New relationships go through the phase where you want to spend every waking second with each other.
I definitely felt this with the guy I’m dating but with kids in the picture, being together 24/7 isn’t an option.
Once that clicked, I actually found it sexy that he could love someone so much as he does his kids.