Dating services for the mentally ill
In my experience, one of the most frustrating challenges about living with a mental illness is that the seemingly small things in life are often the most difficult. or just “I’d see things on dating profiles like ‘no crazy chicks haha’ or ‘if you have bipolar swipe left, no offense, just a preference,’” said Naomi Elise Hall of Fort Wayne, IN.
She lives with bipolar II, schizoaffective disorder, and complex post-traumatic-stress disorder.
However, it is also important to account for what may happen, and how you want to go about those moments with the people you care for.
“First of all, remember that your partner is not a 24/7 therapist or a solution to your problems.
It is possible to find not just love, but the healthy, supportive, real love that you deserve. “You can know whether or not it’s worth pursuing with that person and then they can understand you better.
Initiating this kind of transparency in any kind of relationship (sexual or not) can be incredibly difficult, especially depending on what challenges your conditions present. It doesn’t have to be disclosed on the first date but I feel if you see a future with that person, talk about it.” The more you have this conversation, the more you will be able to determine what you want in other people, and what you will not accept.
“[However, you can] Google a basic guide on how to listen to people that have depression, [and] ask them how THEY would like to be helped.” Mentally ill people are often erased from the conversation on how they would like to be supported during times of struggle.
At the same time, don’t beat yourself up on past mistakes.
We all go through them.”There is no fail-proof, universal way to handle hard moments, but you can prepare yourself by realistically thinking about what you, and whoever you are interested in, can do to prepare and face them together. Are we both committed to having a relationship not in spite of, but informed by, my/our/your mental illness?
Special Bridge is a private dating site and online social community designed to help meet the social and emotional needs of its members.