She is a regular contributor to morning television and a range of online and print publications.Melanie is a registered psychologist and personal coach with over 15 years’ experience in both the corporate and therapeutic arenas.With her performance and media background, Melanie also brings a dynamic and engaging style to the coaching environment and ensures that her clients have a laugh while learning some fantastic life and dating skills.On a personal note, Melanie met her fiancé through e Harmony (so, she practices what she preaches!Some of her favourite methodologies include clinical hypnosis, neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), psychological profiling and role playing.She walks alongside her clients and assists them to achieve positive results through hands-on projects and structured accountability.
About The Author Melanie Schilling has a presence as a psychologist in the Australian media and is known for her informative, yet fun and energetic approach.
The benefits of being assertive in your post-date communication: – Your needs, wants and feelings are more likely to be understood – Nobody’s feelings are hurt intentionally – Both parties are more likely to feel respected and heard – The relationship is strengthened by the exchange – You feel more in control of your own life – You have a better chance of getting what you really want You might be thinking “…but I if I ask for what I want I might come across as desperate! Many people fear being assertive in the early stages of relationships for this very reason. There is a clear difference between assertive and desperate communication.
Desperate: “I really, really like you and think you are totally hot.
Whilst I agree with this premise to a point, we need to account for individual differences and a person’s capacity to make their own informed judgment.
You can support your intuition with some scientific (and fun) data gathering: – Do you share similar values? It is a philosophy based on the primal needs of men and women, assuming all men need to constantly hunt.