Dating a paranoid girl
It's something that can't be controlled and it can be very overwhelming for both parties.
As someone who has been dealing with an anxiety disorder for most of my life, I can understand the baggage that my boyfriends are taking on as a result.
It doesn't help that I'm already so paranoid but now I feel too bitter to react normally to his friendship with her. Overall I don't express my paranoia but I feel it.. I wish I could heal but despite therapy I feel like a part of me will always lack trust. Don't settle for just anyone, go to a specialist, make them work! Regardless I also think it was admirable that she stuck by him and supported him through the hard times.
Tell them all your embarrassing thoughts..can actually begin to find triggers, patterns, strategies. I had mentioned earlier about your article that "watching for signs" in people is one way to avoid people who struggle with paranoia, however I can't help but look at these people with pity and wonder whats really going on.
But what if someone had sat down with Sara and said, look for these behaviors, examine how being around this person makes you feel?
While it is too late for Sara, who has already lived this, it is not for the rest of us. Habitually questions the intentions of others, including spouse, intimate relations, family, or workmates. Is guarded, secretive, devious, scheming, or thinks others around him are that way. Is unbending in thoughts and ideas—stubbornly holds onto beliefs with rigid thinking. Holds grudges for a long time and is not forgiving of slights, even after many years. Is a chronic complainer and malcontent—never satisfied everything is above board or assumes something nefarious is at play. Claims that past failings at work, life, or in relationships have been the direct fault of others.
Character disorders, after all, are on a continuum; some are more acute or pathological than others.
I have recently talked about this issue with my therapist and my boyfriend about it and I am feeling somewhat more confident. He won't get help he accuses my son's of following him around saying hurtful things about my family he yells in the middle of night negative things. If you are at the how to, this is where family, friends, allies, and importantly a good therapist can help.
Consider the aforementioned words from the victims and examine these 15 behavioral traits that are often associated with the paranoid personality: 1. 9 Has a need to control family members or loved ones very strictly and may be very regimented. Never seems to be happy—all too often is on edge, anxious, or irritated—there always seems to be a looming threat “out there.” 11.
Is seemingly always distrustful or suspicious without need. Strongly believes and constantly seeks evidence that others will eventually disappoint or take advantage of him. Often has an unrelenting one-track mind about this or that issue which you also must see as an important issue. Questions the loyalty and veracity of others, even loved ones, without basis or sees hidden meaning in the comments made by others. Becomes suspicious and questions family members or loved ones when they interact with neighbors, postal or delivery personnel, or benign strangers. Sees pending or looming threats that others don’t seem to see, understand, or comprehend, as he does and insists that you see things his way also. Since entering into a relationship with this individual you see fewer and fewer of your old friends or family members. You find yourself having to account for your time when you are away from home. This individual takes offense when you make calls, engage in conversations, email, or talk to others and he is not a participant. Denigrates you or others as “foolish,” “naïve,” “stupid,” or uses some other form of ad hominem attack because his knowledge and understanding is so perfect. Since entering into a relationship with this individual you are less happy, less outgoing, less social, or less confident; or you find you are more worried, nervous, anxious, or preoccupied with how he reacts to you.
and wondered why there were so many articles about narcissists, psychopaths, and borderline personalities, but very little written about being in a relationship with someone who is paranoid.
I couldn’t answer the why question, but she was right about the lack of written material written about those kinds of relationships.